Ways to Help the Ukrainian People

With the ongoing war in Ukraine, I contemplate where I can be of service. What, if anything, can I do?

I began researching organizations and discovered some incredible charities making a difference.


If you are able and feel called, please consider making a donation to support the Ukrainian people. Every bit helps.

A donation of $5.00 or $10.00 dollars, can do a world of good for people still in the Ukraine or for those who had to leave their homeland behind. I’ve provided links to each website below.


Save the Children

One of the top charities rated for children, Save the Children, is working to help Ukrainian children and others affected by the conflict. 85% of donations made to Save the Children goes towards their causes.

For Ukrainians, a donation can provide food, blankets, and help in relocating to safe areas.

Save the Children


UN Women — USA

With over 97% of their donations going towards their causes, the UN Women commits to helping the Ukrainian people, especially women and children.

  • Women and children refugees are at a growing protection risk of gender-based violence and exploitation.

The organization is teaming up with other UN branches to monitor the situation while also developing a humanitarian response for Ukrainian refugees in specific areas surrounding Ukraine.

UN Women


Global Giving

Global giving is a non-profit organization that helps other non-profits through crowd fundraising.

Currently, there is a humanitarian campaign for Ukrainians, their communities, and Ukrainian refugees who are fleeing the country because of the conflict with Russia.

Global Giving


International Rescue Committee (IRC)

The IRC is committed to helping Ukrainian refugees who are now in neighboring Poland.

It’s believed over 3 million Ukrainians have been displaced. IRC is providing food, finding shelter, and offering medical assistance to Ukrainians arriving in Poland.

International Rescue Committee (IRC)


Doctors Without Borders

Doctors Without Borders is a neutral, non-profit organization providing medical needs and humanitarian support in countries where there is conflict, natural or human-made disasters, and outbreaks.

A few ways they are assisting Ukrainians are shipping medical supplies, mass casualty training, and providing water and sanitation support in various cities within Ukraine.

Doctors Without Borders



Care Organization

Care’s mission is to end poverty, champion social justice, and help save lives.

In response to the crisis in the Ukraine, Care is providing food, water, hygiene kits, psychosocial support, and monetary gifts to families, women, children, and the elderly who are vulnerable and in need.



World Central Kitchen

The World Central Kitchen provides meals for people impacted by conflict, climate change, and humanitarian crisis.

At the time of this writing, a kitchen and a food depot have been established in Poland along the Ukrainian border to assist Ukrainians.

They are also providing meal distribution around the clock to refugees arriving at the Polish border.

Within Ukraine, the World Central Kitchen has active warehouses, providing food to eastern cities in Ukraine who have been heavily affected by the war.

World Central Kitchen


These are a few organizations assisting and supporting the Ukrainian people. What impacts one of us, such as the crisis in Ukraine, impacts us all.

My hope and strongest desire is peace and for Ukraine to remain a sovereign country. Until then, I will make donations to help the Ukrainians in their time of need. I hope you can too.


Love, strength, and peace,



Destigmatizing Mental Illness

My First Experience with a Mental Health Disorder

I’m twelve, sitting on a plaid, sectional coach in my aunt’s  living room, trying to concentrate on my homework, but I’m distracted. No, I’m terrified.

Ten feet away, Aunt Sylvie is in the kitchen muttering, pacing back and forth. I’ve never seen her behave this way before.

My mom dropped me off at my aunt’s place for a few hours while she ran errands.

There was no way to contact my mother without going into the kitchen where the phone hangs on the wall. This was before cell phones became an everyday item.

Not knowing what to do, I pretend to be oblivious to my aunt’s conversations and pacing.

She seems agitated, and the last thing I want to do was cause her more frustration.

Aunt Sylvie stops her pacing, speaking in hushed tones to someone who is not there.

“Listen. You’re not fooling anyone; I know you’ve been watching me. Are you working for the KGB?”


I jump, hearing what sounds like a baking sheet being slammed on the kitchen counter.

Soon my mom arrives and being a nurse, she calms my aunt down, speaking in soothing tones. Within minutes, my aunt’s anxiety and paranoia subsides.

Afterwards, my mom told me my aunt’s episode was caused by forgetting to take her medication, The incident was the first time (at least to my mom’s knowledge) that this happened.

It was witnessing my mom’s calm demeanor that helped reassure me. When we got home, she shared more information on bipolar disorder, giving me a deeper understanding and compassion for my aunt and her condition.*

Bipolar Disorder

Bipolar disorder is where someone experiences tremendous highs of well-being and insufferable lows, to the point of deep despair.

While this is a general description of the disorder, the experience is unique and personal to the individual.

Even with today’s medical advances and research, we are still learning about the brain and how it functions in processing information.

Mental health conditions and bipolar disorder have been a part of my family for a while; however, during that time, it wasn’t discussed; the subject was taboo.

Today, with mental health issues either being ignored, under-funded or both, the stigma still lives within many countries.

Mental Health Studies

To give one an idea of the state of mental health in the United States and around the world, here are some sobering findings.

A study done in 2019 by Mental Health America revealed alarming statistics.**

  • Nearly 20% (19.86 percent of adults) or roughly 50 million adults have experienced a mental health illness.


  • Of these 50 million adults, over 27 million do not receive treatment.


  • Over 2.5 million young adults have severe depression with multiracial youth at the greatest risk.


  • A growing percentage of youth are living with major depression and over 60% of youth with major depression do not receive treatment.


  • Suicidal ideation continues to escalate, with 4.58% of adults having serious thoughts of suicide. This is an increase of 664,000 people from last year, with these numbers continuing to increase each year for the past 10 years.

For the world, mental health is a major concern and the urgent need for more mental health services has only increased once the pandemic took hold in 2020.

A World Bank article by health specialist, Rialda Kovacevic, shares some daunting figures.***

  • Nearly 1 billion people live with a mental disorder.


  • In low-income countries, 75% of people with a disorder go untreated.


  • 1-5 people affected by conflict are estimated to have a mental health condition.

Ms. Kovacevic shares more statistics from the World Health Organization (WHO). Imparting these numbers: ****

  • The COVID-19 pandemic has disrupted, or sometimes, halting critical mental health services in 93% of countries worldwide while the demand for mental health services continues to soar.


  • The pandemic has increased demand for mental health services. Bereavement, isolation, loss of income and fear are triggering mental health conditions or exacerbating existing ones.


  • Many people may be facing increased levels of alcohol and drug use, insomnia, and anxiety.


  • Countries were spending less than 2 per cent of their national health budgets on mental health and struggling to meet their populations’ needs.


  • Forecasts predict within the next ten years; depression will put more burden on nations than any other disease.


  • Every $1 dollar invested in mental health yields a $4 return.

With the last statistic, funding and providing mental health services to populations would benefit social, economic growth and well-being. With that said, why is the world lacking in offering adequate care for mental health? Ms. Kovacevic shares these insights:

  • Seeing mental health as a “luxury item” versus an essential need to our well-being.


  • Outdated service models and/or not enough preventive mental health care.


  • Lagging policies or not enough policies in place advocating mental health.


  • Shortages of human resources.

Perhaps the number one reason (and Ms. Kovacevic mentions this as well) why mental health lacks awareness, education, and funding is stigma.

What are the origins of mental health and its illnesses? Our collective history sheds some insights on how the stigmatization of mental illness began and continues today.


Hieroglyphs in Qena, Egypt

As early as 5000 BCE, mental health has been studied and treated in various parts of the world.

This is clear in the papyri found in ancient Egypt highlighting their advanced studies in medicine and of the mind.

Throughout this time, the cause of mental disorders was believed to come from supernatural forces, such as an angry deity or god, or demons.

Prayer, exorcisms, atonements, and the use of amulets were ways clergy, medicine man, and medicine women would coax and extradite the supernatural force or demon from the individual.

Around the 5th Century

Cupping therapy is still used today bringing equilibrium and balance to the body.

This belief of an outside entity causing mental health illness prevailed until the 5th century BCE when the Greek physician, Hippocrates believed and stated that mental health stemmed from imbalances of fluids within the body, not an outside force.

To bring the body back into equilibrium some treatments used were laxatives, “bleeding” the patients by using leeches, and cupping. *****

Cupping is a practice where glass cups are heated and then placed on the body. As the cup cools, it creates suction, which is said to improve the flow of energy and fluids within the body, facilitate healing.

Isolation and Abandonment

During these early years, mental health patients were left in the care of their families. However, in some parts of the world, these loved ones were often hidden from the public because of the social stigma surrounding mental illness.

In places where a “pure” family lineage was of the utmost importance, family members with mental illnesses were confined to rooms, cellars, or abandoned in the streets and left to their own devices.

16th-18th Century

Starting in the 16th century, asylums were created in Europe and several years later, within the United States. The institutions were built mainly to house the growing number of individuals with mental health conditions.

These early asylums were more like prisons, where little to no treatment was provided. In darkened rooms or cells, patients were often chained to walls, allowing little mobility, subjected to torture, and lived in extreme, unsanitary conditions.

Bethlem Royal Hospital

The most notorious asylum during this time was the Bethlem Royal Hospital, often referred to as Bedlam. Located outside of London, the institution implemented bizarre treatments such as rotational therapy.

This was done by chaining a patient to a chair suspended from the ceiling and spun around at different rates of speed, sometimes for hours.

One of the most shocking aspects of Bethlem’s history was allowing the public to view inmates and patients for a small fee.

The policy was to entice family members to visit their relatives but became more of a spectacle; allowing Londoners to walk the halls of the facility marveling at patients and their dire living conditions.

A New Approach During the Late 18th Century

Phillippe Pinel

It wasn’t until the late 18th century when treatment towards the mentally ill and their living conditions improved.

The French physician, Philippe Pinel, was pivotal in providing an individual approach to their ailments, allowing patients to be treated with empathy and engaging with them in lengthy conversations as he took extensive notes.

His work was revolutionary and in France, he became known as the father of modern psychiatry.

Patients were given their own rooms with beds, ample sunlight and could walk freely in and around the asylum grounds. This novel approach had a major impact on patients and their well-being.

Late 1800s – Early 1900s

During the late 1800s to early 1900s, Sigmund Freud discovered psychoanalysis and his work has been influential in both psychiatry and psychotherapy. Around this same time period, Carl Jung was another trailblazer in psychology, becoming the founder of psychoanalysis.

20th Century to Present Day

Through the 20th century, psychopharmacology became a major influence in treating mental health illnesses, disorders, and conditions.

Yet, while medications have been helpful and effective, there are some who believe that patients may use medication without confronting their mental issues through counseling.******

Fear of Judgement and Isolation

Given our history towards mental illness, is it any wonder there is fear, shame and apprehension on the subject matter? 

In speaking with relatives and others who have various mental health illnesses and conditions, the overall feelings shared were fear of being judged by family members and/or being ostracized from their personal social groups and society.

Even the fear of losing one’s job was expressed if the individual shared their mental health condition with colleagues.

The stigma surrounding mental health disorders is so strong, people are scared to speak openly about it and receive help.

How do we overcome the deep-seated stigma associated with mental illness? Where can we breakdown the stigma and provide support for those in need?

In my next blog post, I’ll share some insights as well as my own journey with mental health.


Until then, I’m sending compassion, peace, and grace your way.









* Names and event altered for privacy purposes.

** Statistics provided by: Mental Health America

*** Mental health: lessons learned in 2020 for 2021 and forward, by Rialda Kovacevic, February 11, 2021

:**** Covid-19 disrupting mental health services in most countries, WHO survey, October 5, 2020.

***** / ****** Excerpts and general outline from: The History of Mental Illness: From Skull Drills to Happy Pills, by A. M. Foerschener–Inquires Journal 2010


The Sahanaayili Village during the Pandemic

(The above image is a gathering at the Sahanaayili Village of Nanton before the pandemic. Now only twenty people or fewer are allowed to gather as of May 2020.)

Separated by a Pandemic – United in our Response

It’s been over five months since I last saw my partner with the world transforming before our eyes.

In March, Chief Suale and I spoke on the phone about whether he should fly back to the States. I worried about his health and well-being given most people in Ghana live in communal ways.


Sahanaayili Village – pre-pandemic.


I would’ve liked to have my husband with me in America, but I knew he needed to stay in Ghana to assist the people during this challenging time.

The Government’s Response

On March 23rd, Ghana responded to the coronavirus by closing all borders: land, sea, and air. All travelers arriving in Ghana (before the lockdown and closure of airports) are tested for the virus and quarantined for fourteen days. Certain roads throughout Ghana are now closed to prevent the spread of the virus.

In a country that is the size of Oregon in the United States and a population of over 30 million, there’s been 5,735 confirmed COVID-19 cases and 29 deaths.*

Map of Ghana, West Africa

COVID-19 in Tamale, Ghana

In the Northern region, there are thirty-one cases and ten confirmed COVID-19 cases in the city of Tamale.

The infected individuals within Tamale are from other countries: Guinea and Burkina Faso. These individuals were in the city for business after traveling through Burkina Faso and Togo. Officials quarantined them at their hotel while also testing the hotel staff.

At one point, a Guinean woman who was part of the group quarantined escaped from the hotel in the early morning hours, but found and detained a few days later in Accra.

Restrictions of Large Gatherings

President Nana Akufo-Addo is receiving praise for his swift response to the health crisis, and his poignant messages to the people.

A child wears Kenti cloth face mask. The textile design is from the Ashanti Ghanaian tribe.

The president placed strict, social distancing measures including no gatherings at mosques, churches, or city markets and large weddings and funerals are banned until further notice. Schools are closed until further notice.

Communal living and celebrations are an integral part of the Dagomba tribe, who live in the northern region.

It’s not uncommon to see enormous gatherings at weddings, funerals, and naming ceremonies.

While this government order has been tenacious, it’s necessary to help flatten the curve of the virus.

Minister Offers Help

One of the government’s minister met with Chief Suale to discuss the needs of the village. Ministers meet with chiefs to assess necessities; especially during a state of emergency.

The minister provided hand-washing stations to Sahanaayili village and placed them throughout the community. They also placed a hand-washing station near the roadside for frequent travelers who pass by.

Not everyone has access to clean, running water, so these hand-washing stations are vital in protecting the people against the virus.

A Nurse Visits the Sahanaayili Village

Two weeks ago, a nurse visited the village to discuss COVID-19. He discussed factual information regarding the virus and offered the best practices during the pandemic. The nurse also handed out pamphlets and hand sanitizers to the group.

The demonstration was especially important since it provided preventative practices for the community. This is crucial since the nearest doctor and hospital is an hour away from the Sahanaayili village.

A nurse travels to our village to share preventative efforts against COVID-19.

Lifting of Restrictions

On April 20th, Ghana eased partial restrictions of the lockdown. Some criticized the president’s decision, fearing the lift in restrictions may cause a surge in infections.

While there was a spike in recent cases, this was in part because of a backlog of samples that were tested and cleared in laboratories for the virus.**

Enhanced testing and contact tracing have also become prevalent, which may also contribute to the growing number of cases.

What has worked in Ghana’s favor is the government’s swift action, using their own emergency funding versus waiting for international aid, and fast, extensive testing.

Drones Helping Combat COVID-19

Ghana is the first country to use drones to test for COVID-19 in remote locations.

The drones provide quick delivery of samples from rural areas in the bush that normally would take several hours to deliver.

Using drones can save hours, even days, in providing test results. This offers a quick response to individuals who test positive for the virus.***


With the government’s help and its outreach to rural areas, so far there have been no COVID cases in the Sahanaayili village. While we remain vigilant, we know continued education is important.

During these ever-changing times, we’re grateful for the healthcare and essential workers who are serving so many around the world. We want to express our deep appreciation for your assistance and service. Thank you!

Come Together

It’s clear now, more than ever, that we realize how connected we are through our shared humanity. Let us move forward and create a world where we uplift and empower one another other with a newfound sense of community.

This is my aspiration and motivation as I traverse this unfamiliar landscape and the dawning of a new world.


Take care everyone and be well.


Peace, love and blessings,








*Statistics as of May 16, 2020
** From BBC News article  
***  Time’s article 


Ghana – Statistics and General Information

Hello all,

I hope you and your loved ones are healthy and safe.

Several of you have asked how chiefs and the Ghanaian people are coping during the pandemic.

Before addressing what’s happening in our village, I thought it may be helpful to share some basic information on Ghana and my understanding of how chiefs and the democratic government rule and co-exist in this rich and complex country.

The video below is some general information about Ghana, West Africa. I’ll post the second video in the next couple of days.

Thank you for your kindness and support.


Take care and be well,










Ernesto and the Holidays

A thirty something latino man with dark wavy hair and a trimmed mustache sits alone at a table with a small, spiral note pad. He meticulously goes through some notes and scribbles down fresh revelations as they come to him.

He’s dressed in a nice pair of jeans, a crisp, blue button-down shirt and wears practical, dark, laced up shoes. He grabs his phone from his back pocket and dials. When someone on the other line answers, he speaks: 

Hello? Yes, mmm…yyy… nn…nnname is Eeeeeer…nnnnnest…to. I’m cccc… calling abbbb…bout ttthhh… tttthhh..the  aaaa… aaa… ppp… part… mmm… ent.

 He’s boisterous and I try to avoid glancing over because I know other people in the dining area are staring at him. Ernesto sits directly across from me, so it’s difficult not to listen in on his conversation as the volume of his voice increases when the person on the other end of the line is having a hard time understanding him.

I’mmm… ccc… cccalling aaa..about… th..th… the aaa…appp…part.. mmm…ment.”


Anyone who has lived in Los Angeles knows how difficult it is to find an apartment in and around the city. It’s a monumental task for most of us; not only to find an apartment, but to find something affordable is challenging.

Los Angeles homelessness is surging with nearly 60,000 people in LA county alone. A whopping 47% of unsheltered homelessness individuals are found in the state of California, the highest in the country.*

  * courtesy of Los Angeles Almanac.

Tears well up in my eyes. I don’t know why I’m so emotional; maybe it’s because before me is someone struggling and there isn’t much I can do. So I do the only thing I can think of that may be of some help; I pray for him.  

I’m perplexed as to why I was so moved, but sometimes strangers can wake us up to the wider scope of our lives; showing us things about ourselves that are in need of attention or encouraging us in another area; venturing forth into new territory.


I reflect upon this, the state of our country and the world. In a time of great division where many are suffering, this is when in our rawness and vulnerability we need each other the most. One way we can create unity is through giving.

Studies have shown when one gives, one receives even more in return.

 Here are some benefits to giving:


  • A feeling of happiness and release of depression.

  • Helps in alleviating stress.

  • Improves sense of self and self-worth.

  • Improves one’s energy.

  • Gives one a sense of purpose.

During the holiday season, it can be a challenging time for many, so I did something different.

This year, instead of giving gifts, I’ve asked friends if they’d be willing for us to contribute to a charity or non-profit we both feel passionate about and they loved the idea. 


These two websites below offer a list of charities and non-profits to choose from throughout the United States.




Here are a few non-profits and charities I’ve donated to and who are doing wonderful work around the world.

Save the Children


  • Save the Children helps children around the world with health, education and protection.



  • Oxfam has a wide range of services, including ending poverty, gender inequality, local disaster response, and climate change.



  • Care helps in the elimination of poverty and advocates social justice.

There are many charities and non-profits within the US and around the world. If you find one that resonates with what you’re passionate about, see if you can offer help and brighten someone’s holiday.


Another option is to volunteer at a local shelter, mission, or soup kitchen. Most people who work in these facilities welcome any help or acts of kindness. Not only are you extending a hand to someone in need, but it can also help one feel more aligned and inclusive within their community.


If you’re feeling isolated or alone, reach out to a friend or family member and spend quality time with them.

More and more people are yearning for quality experiences versus material items during the holidays.

Spending time with a dear friend can uplift one’s spirit and also help gain perspective on areas that may seem overwhelming. It can also provide comfort and hope.

Peace and Good Will to All

May we fill our hearts with kindness, love, and compassion during this holiday season, and as this decade draws to a close, let us come together in peace.


Peace and blessings, 



P.S. Thank you to my family, friends, and clients. You have all added to my life in wondrous ways and I am grateful!



Maria and Apollo

“Do you mind if I sit here?” Asks the women in a bright purple shirt with shoulder blond hair and brown doe eyes.

I’m seated at the Whole Foods dining area reading my book, enjoying my coffee and small salad while taking in an invigorating, sunny spring day.

Earlier she was in front of me at the grocery check-out line. Her legs appear to bother her and after paying the cashier, she shuffles off to the side when she glances toward me: “Go ahead.” she calls out while fumbling with her purse. The women seems to struggle not only physically but also mentally; distracted and distraught at the same time.

“Yes, of course.” I gesture for her to take a seat as I move my purse to give her some space.

The woman sits on the corner of the weathered picnic table and heaves a sigh of relief. A nearby raven crows and a gentle breeze caresses my skin as the two of us eat in silence.

She stares out into the parking lot when she blurts out:

“I just put down my dog.” She says as her voice cracks.

She goes on: “Man, it’s been really hard.”

“Oh, I’m so sorry.” I reply, knowing how difficult it is to lose a family member. 

“It’s only been a week, but for some reason these past few days have been the hardest.” She says staring off in the distance.

“I completely understand. I’ve been there.” I offer.


She went on to share with me about her four legged family member named Apollo: a handsome golden retriever who was thirteen years of age and was gallant, loving and brave to the very end.

“I still feel him around me. I mean, I go on the same walks that we use to go on together and I know this may seem strange, but I feel his presence around me.” She said. I nod in agreement. “Perhaps he is.” I replied.

I go on: “We are all made up of energy and Einstein took this concept even further with the discovery that energy cannot be created nor destroyed, it can only change from one form to another.” I say.

“So perhaps Apollo is not gone per se, but has merely changed his form.” She considers this and grins. “Yes, I believe this.”

“Are you in the health profession? I ask because you have a really beautiful energy about you.” She says.

“I’m a Reiki Master and a writer.” I reply.

“Oh that makes perfect sense. You have such a peaceful, calming way about you.” she says.


Maria is her name and she works in the healthcare industry assisting the elderly. She’s also a singer and songwriter; singing on demos, as a backup singer for various artists and performing at local coffeehouses.

She bursts into laughter when she tells me more stories about her stoic Apollo; how she would sing to him and he would serenade back to her in his baritone howls. She shares how Apollo helped her to enjoy each moment, and how he reminded her to be more present each day and to appreciate everything; the shade of a grand tree, the soft grass under her feet, the warmth of the sun on her skin and his companionship.

We talked for nearly an hour where Maria reveals that doesn’t have any family nearby and that Apollo was her family. She thanks me for taking the time to speak with her.

“You know Stacy, I really appreciate you. You’ve helped me a great deal and I feel so much better.” She says.

“It’s been lovely chatting with you, Maria. If you ever want to get a cup of coffee or chat, feel free to give me a ring.” I said.

I hand her my card and a broad grin envelopes her face. “Thank you, Stacy. I’ll do that.” She says. I squeeze her hand when she rises and is on her way with a lightness in her being that was previously absent.

Vulnerability and Connection

We all need support and this need can show up in various ways; whether it’s sharing a painful experience or certain life challenges troubling us.

It’s easy to get caught up in our “other worlds” such as the ones on social media and even in our daily lives; however, even if these aspects are a part of our current reality, what is truly real is our vulnerability.

Our vulnerability is authentic, it’s what connects us as human beings. It takes great courage to show our real self; warts and all, whether it’s in our grieving, our struggles or our shadow side that we may abhor and want to push it away.

Yet, in facing our fears and being vulnerable, we free ourselves from the burden of the belief we are alone in our struggle.

Diving deeper

Once we reveal our vulnerability, we can find comfort in others who support and lift us up, who can empathise and offer us compassion, kindness and encouragement.

I think about Maria and Apollo and I’m touched by how brave she was in sharing her grief and struggles with a complete stranger. In Maria’s sharing, we were both transformed and better for it. In our connection and vulnerability not only does it bring relief, but it also brings us together and empowers us.

Both Maria and Apollo’s names are also significant: Maria is the latin form of Mary, the blessed Mother in Christianity. Some of the qualities associated with her are faith, perseverance, compassion and unconditional love.

Apollo was the sun god of ancient Greece; a powerful deity who was also the god of music, light, medicine and healing. I find it interesting that Maria and the spirit of Apollo came to me just before the Easter holiday. They were both gentle reminders to me of the power within us all.

During this holiday weekend, let us remember and come together in our humanity. Let us have the courage to reach out to others even if it’s a simple “hello” or to pay a compliment to a stranger.

May kindness and empathy lead the way to a deeper connection for a better understanding of each other and our oneness. The world is calling for it, it’s in need of us to be vulnerable, authentic and real.

With a deeper connection to ourselves and each other an inner peace fills us; creating a luminosity within and as a result, we transform. Thus a rebirth begins as we rise and awaken to the divine within us all.


Peace and richest blessings,




A Poem to My 110 Year Old Self

Studies have shown that writing down thoughts and inspirations of gratitude is one of the most powerful ways to make us feel happier and to create more meaningful and joyful experiences in our lives. By expression gratitude on a regular basis, the impact can last for months and deepen one’s own well being.

A few months ago, I was part of a wonderful class; a community of writers from around the world. We had weekly assignments where we would critique, inspire and empower each other. Our last assignment was to imagine ourselves living to the ripe age of 110. Knowing that we were nearing the end of our life, we were to write an encomium –
an expression of high praise for the life we had lived.

We were not only sharing our life, (as well as what we imagined our future life would look like and be) but we were also expressing gratitude for all the experiences; the many colors of joy, sorrow, elation and anguish because all of our experiences have their lessons to teach us. Give it a try and notice where you feel more joyful in your life and subsequently, more at peace.


I chose to write my encomium in the form of a poem. Enjoy!


Firefly they call you 

Lighting up the night

Your tender belly illuminating your flight

What a majestic tapestry you are weaving

Of a well lived life.

Shine on, sweet one. Shine bright.

As you grew more curious, the seeker that you are

You reach high through the treetops to the glittering stars

And when the turmoil within your family seemed too great to bear

I gently murmured to your aching wounds –

Take heart, dear one. Take care.

The chaos of the world grew louder 

At times, you were distraught

But you kept listening, hearing my voice

You, a Phoenix rising

Continued to soar.

Fly on, free spirit. Fly on.

Meeting your beloved mate 

Under a canopy of stars deep in the African night

A love so profound you knew to wait

This man now your husband, your Chief 

And you his Queen, his wife.

Love on, brave one. Love on.

Passionately working side by side with your beloved

Building bridges beyond borders

Your conviction and joy unbound

An ambassador of peace; your mission discovering and creating 

Compassion for common ground. 

Lead on, gentle one. Lead on.

As your tapestry of light flourishes

A splendor of colors and deep, sumptuous hues

Your weaving strands connecting others

Their light shining with you.

You raise your voice for others

Standing with them in unity; their time long overdue

Honoring them with your actions and words

You stand for their truth.

Stay strong, dear one. Stay strong and true.

And even when doubt would cloud your mind

You remembered the riches of being alive

Were the experiences that cannot be changed

With the passing of time.


The thoughtful conversations with your father, hours on end

Mom tending to her garden and your child’s first grin.

Gentle kisses from your lover under a shooting star 

And cool summer raindrops caressing your warm skin —

Yes, these are the moments you will remember by far.

Remember, kind one. Remember and rejoice on.

Your love ones now encircle you

With heartfelt messages and tearful farewells

Your eyes fixated towards the heavens

You know it’s your time

You know this all too well.

For your grand life is before you

Luminous and dazzling

A blazing fire in the evening night

It comforts and soothes, it radiates and glows

As you say your last goodbye

And as your tapestry continues to unfold,

Its fiery embers float towards the infinite sky

I stroke your silvery, long mane of hair

Whispering sweetly in your ear 

One last time.


Thank you dear love, for this glorious tapestry of your life.

Thank you dear love, for shining so bright.

Peace, love and blessings,

Nanton Village

The Village of Nanton


Traveling to Nanton.

Billows of red, dust trail behind our car as it barrels down the dirt road.

We’ve been traveling for over an hour into the bush to visit with family and the elders of the Nanton village.

Family is all-encompassing in Ghana and good friends are often called uncles, aunties or grandfathers, and grandmothers.


The Family

When you’ve been away in America for some time, (some family members consider a couple of months a very long time) it’s necessary to see all your family and when I say all, that means a large number of people; consisting of immediate, extended family, friends and friends of friends. Even people that may not know you, greet you as family.

Welcome sister!


My wife, welcome!


Visiting one of our grandfathers.

Yes, that’s right. There were men calling me their wife. Of course It’s an expression; a term of affection.

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The Horse: A Noble Steed

The essential joy of being with horses is that it brings us in contact with the rare elements of grace, beauty, spirit and freedom. ~ Sharon Ralls Lemon


For the next few posts on this website, I’ll be sharing my time in Ghana with my partner, Chief Suale.

A Graceful and Sentient Being

The horse has been a faithful guardian and trusted confidant throughout time. It’s not surprising that this noble creature is deemed sacred and held in high regard within the Dagomba tribe and it’s clear that there’s a special affinity with the creature; a bond that knows no bounds and at times, feels otherworldly.  


The evening sun fades in the distance and the first star rises into the painted sky of rich pink and purple hues. At a nearby mosque, an Imam sings evening prayers over a loudspeaker; a lullaby to the end of the day.  I close my eyes and breathe deeply, the melody is soothing and a sense of peace washing over me.  

The beauty and grace of these magnificent beings.

It’s still in the upper eighties (along with high humidity) even though the sun has set so I do my best to stay cool, catching up on some reading. Time passes and I wander out into the great hall, saunter out onto our porch, where now the darkness of the night envelopes the landscape with only a few dots of illumination gleaming from nearby houses. 


There in our courtyard quietly stands the horse, Stardust. Even though the Dagombas have a special bond with these four legged beings, they don’t name their horses, so I took the liberty to do so. Stardust is a striking white stallion with a silver mane and flecks of grey spots splattered throughout his torso; almost as if Jackson Pollock decided to used his body as a canvas. 

Stardust with ceremonial henna on his forelock, chest, hips and legs.

I lean against our porch railing when Stardust glances up towards me with his ears at attention. In silence, I watch, the beast as Stardust resumes grazing; chomping on some fresh cut grass from the bush that some local boys collected


I feel the intensity of Stardust’s gaze and I quietly take a seat in a handmade, wooden chair. A chorus of frogs bellow from the stream next to our home and the crickets chime in with their verse; nature’s chorus coming to life. I listen and feel their earnestness; a desire to become a part of this unique, wordless dialogue.

I sit and watch Stardust communing beyond any sounds or movement – it’s an exchange of dynamic energy, a sensitivity of allowing.

The Medicine People

This knowingness is not uncommon in Africa and especially with the Medicine People. Indigenous healers are important pillars in the Dagomba community and they offer an array of remedies and consultations including; guidance, insight, clarity and protection. 

Chiefs often need protection due to their stature within the community and horses play a unique role as protectors to the chiefs. Medicine Men/Medicine Women prepare charms (for lack of a better term) for the horse to wear to increase his/her strength, protection, and to heighten their senses to see and feel beyond the veil.

Horses also support in the journey of a chief’s career. It’s said a horse will carry a chief to his or her destiny and the Medicine people are able to view and discern the capability of each horse and the qualities it possesses.

Special Occasions

One can find horses throughout Tamale and they are often a part of special occasions including marriages, naming ceremonies and funerals. Below is a link to a video of a horse dancing to the rhythm of the drums at a funeral in Tamale from a couple of years ago.


The next morning I wake to the crowing of roosters at 5:00AM in a nearby yard. The early rays of light break across the horizon beckoning me to rise. I wash up and take my time getting ready while the outside world comes to life; bustling with energy. 

A couple hours later, I glide through our great hall,  glancing out the window to discover Stardust is surrounded by children.

Children visiting me at our home.


It’s not uncommon for children to wander into another person’s yard. I’m sure their curiosity is partly due to the fact that I’m the only Caucasian in the area.  

The children sit in chairs and on the ground surrounding him and Stardust; they are a captive audience.While a family member taking care of the horse shares with them the importance of horses are to the Dagomba culture.    

Wonder and joy fill the children’s eyes. This may be the first time they have seen a horse in such close proximity. This sharing helps children learn about their culture and traditions, communication, from one generation to the next.

To be an active participant and advocator of children’s education, is something I’m passionate about, and seeing these children relish in this moment, lifts my spirits.


With love and gratitude,


Adventures in Ghana

Hello and welcome!

I’ll be sharing some travel posts here for the next couple of weeks. These adventures are from my recent trip.

Arrival into Accra, Ghana West Africa

Ghana – West Africa, here I come!

Arriving in Accra at 8:00pm has moments of glee and patience.

Excitement because I’ve arrived in Ghana after nearly 24 hours of travel, and patience because of the time required to get through Ghana customs and retrieve luggage can be a task.

Freedom from the Internet 

One thing is for sure, the internet isn’t always accessible and in some places, it’s spotty at best.

The Internet – a go go but maybe a little slow slow or even a no show (at times) in Ghana.

We tend to take the internet for granted in the USA without a second thought.

Once you open your phone or computer, boom!

Congratulations! You’re on the internet!

However, in Ghana you can be without internet access for several hours and sometimes even days.

Brown/black outs are frequent here and having a wifi router in your own home doesn’t guarantee internet coverage especially with the heavy, monsoon precipitation that come during the rainy season. 

One can view this as a gift or a curse.

What I decided when I first came to Ghana is this: being in this country and the ability to travel is a unique and incredible offering which to me, is a blessing.


I view the unpredictability of the internet as a welcome repose: to step away from my devices and enjoy the freedom of being off the grid. and being in the moment.



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